You're right, I've always seen you as a very femme person! I hope you find your butch adventure fun & fulfilling.
I'm very interested in other people's gender/fashion journeys, I guess out of a kind of envy? I've always had a lot of weird heebie jeebies about femininity. Like I like womanhood, I'm chill being a woman, but the idea of doing a lot of that femme decoration stuff (make up, heels, removing body hair, all of that looking pretty and put-together stuff) makes my skin crawl.
I too was a tall and awkward girl-child, and I grew up feeling like other people had been given the girl fashion manual while I was somewhere else. My default dress style is "what's the bare minimum I can do to be acceptable for this social situation?" Which leads to me being perceived as butch sometimes, because people see the absence of femininity as intentional masculinity.
I think about this a lot, because all my friends seem to have reached a point where they're having fun with fashion/self-preservation as an avenue for queer joy and exploration, but it's not a joy I've really been able to find yet. I find it really hard to separate "I'm using clothing to explore an aspect of myself" from "I'm trying to impress/seduce/show off to other people", and I don't really enjoy doing the second one.
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Date: 2022-11-24 01:08 am (UTC)I'm very interested in other people's gender/fashion journeys, I guess out of a kind of envy? I've always had a lot of weird heebie jeebies about femininity. Like I like womanhood, I'm chill being a woman, but the idea of doing a lot of that femme decoration stuff (make up, heels, removing body hair, all of that looking pretty and put-together stuff) makes my skin crawl.
I too was a tall and awkward girl-child, and I grew up feeling like other people had been given the girl fashion manual while I was somewhere else. My default dress style is "what's the bare minimum I can do to be acceptable for this social situation?" Which leads to me being perceived as butch sometimes, because people see the absence of femininity as intentional masculinity.
I think about this a lot, because all my friends seem to have reached a point where they're having fun with fashion/self-preservation as an avenue for queer joy and exploration, but it's not a joy I've really been able to find yet. I find it really hard to separate "I'm using clothing to explore an aspect of myself" from "I'm trying to impress/seduce/show off to other people", and I don't really enjoy doing the second one.
Idk there's a bunch of thoughts for you.