Yeah, like, on the one hand I gently roll my eyes at them (and at young aces constructing elaborate alternative relationship structures without benefit of, you know, actual other people to complicate them). Because the useless fretting isn't actually improving the situation...

But on the other hand, those kids are scared and expressing it in the least vulnerable way they have any access to. And I was an absolutely terrified kid until I was in about my mid twenties. I mean that I got asked about my five, ten, fifteen year plans when I was sixteen and I gave detailed career ideas and then tentatively added that I'd like to have a dog, because that seemed realistic. It's hard when family feels so incredibly inaccessible as a basic context, and there are even fewer models of healthy adult f/f relationships that end well enough than m/m ones.

It's one of those things where reaching out and making those models and just being present in the community does a lot of good, but the desperation and loneliness and hungriness can (paradoxically) make it harder to do that in the first place. I just try to keep that in mind when I'm playing that role.